Mother-in-Law Cleaning – What to Clean Before She Arrives
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Mother-in-Law Cleaning – What to Clean Before She Arrives


What is mother-in-law cleaning and how do
you do it before the holidays? We’re going to talk about that today. Hi there. I’m Angela Brown and this is Ask A House Cleaner. This is a show where you get to ask a house
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exciting topic, it’s mother-in-law cleaning. And I know you’re cringing just at the tone
of it, but you’ve heard of deep cleaning and spring cleaning and move in and move out cleaning
and upsells and special projects and appliance cleaning and all this stuff. But mother-in-law cleaning is what happens
when you know that your mother-in-law is coming over for the holidays and you know that she’s
going to walk in … I say mother-in-law, it can be your father-in-law, it could be
your sister-in-law. It’s that one relative that feels like they
got to walk in and nitpick your house, right? I think we all have a relative or two like
that where they come in and they run their fingers over the top of your refrigerator
and they’re like, oh, somebody hasn’t had time to clean the doors off the top of their
fridge. Or they touch the leaves on your plants and
they’re like, oh well these have a lot of dust on them. Or they might give the white glove treatment
across the tops of your picture frames or something like that. It could be them walking up and down the stairs,
where the ledges on the outside of the stair rails, where they might touch that on their
way up out of the home. Like I see that you’ve been too busy to do
the house cleaning or whatever. And they just nit-pick little tiny things
like why are you doing this? Right? So a couple of quick things that I want to
bring up real quick. First of all, I want to speak to the mother-in-law
or that relative that does that. If you do this, when you go to somebody’s
house, cut it out. It’s not nice. It makes you a jerk. And no one appreciates it, okay? So if you are that relative, cut it out. Do not do that. It’s not nice and nobody wins, right? The house is good enough when you’re not there. If you come over and it’s not good enough
for you, leave, you don’t deserve to be there, okay? All right. Now if you’re the homeowner and you felt obligated
to hurry and clean all those things, what you may want to do is hire a professional,
if you don’t already. Have a professional, come in and do the regular
cleaning and then you can spend your free time, whatever’s left, because I know the
holidays are hectic and they’re busy. Spend whatever free time you have and go and
hit those extra hotspots because if your relatives have come before, you know what those hotspots
are. And so it might be the drawers of your kitchen,
it might be the silverware, it might be the picture frames or the leaves like we talked
about on the plant. Nobody really knows. But every house is a little bit different. Every house has its own little hot pockets
that their relatives nitpick when they come. So you can work on those extra things so that
you are guest ready when they come. Then the thing that I would like to tell you,
and this is the homeowner that has the relatives. If your relatives come over and they’re nitpicking,
I want you to not get upset. Okay? Don’t get upset this holiday season. Give them a free pass. Just say, listen, this person, for some reason
in their life, felt inadequate enough that they felt like in order to make themselves
stand taller, they had to bring me down a notch. And so they’re just making themselves feel
a little bit more important by trying to find something that’s not perfect with my life. So just realize that’s who they are. That’s who they’re always going to be. They may never change and I’m just going to
not let it bother me on this day and don’t get all worked up about it. Don’t get all stressed about it. Don’t lose sleep a week in advance thinking,
well, they’re going to come and they’re going to find things wrong with my house because
they will. They will. That’s who they are. Those relatives always do that. I don’t know why, but they always do that. And don’t let it get to you. Just say, you know what today and focusing
on family and I’m going to celebrate the time that we have left. There’s so many loved ones that we’ve lost
over the last couple of years. And if you could go back in time, you would
give anything to spend moments with those people again. These are those moments. And so when we talk about mother-in-law cleaning,
if you can do it, do it. If you can’t do it, give yourself a free pass
and just say, hey listen, I’m not going to beat myself up over it. My house is good enough for me. And that’s, going to have to be okay. And when my family comes, if they nitpick
my house, I’m not going to take it personally this year. This year, I’m just going to love them for
who they are. I’m going to enjoy the moments that we have
together. And then I’m going to send them on their way. And when they leave my world goes back to
the norm, that is good enough for me. Right. So, my suggestion to you this holiday season
is the mother-in-law cleaning. If you can do it, awesome. If you are the mother-in-law, zip it. Really don’t say anything. Please don’t say anything. And if you are the homeowner that has to deal
with that, take a deep breath. Make sure you go for an extra walk, get some
oxygen flowing through your blood. Make sure that you have peace and harmony
in your soul and just let it ride this year because it’s not worth the stress. All right. I wish for you a very happy holiday season
and I know that this is something that can be overcome. It is just one of those things. All right. I hope this helps a little bit. If it does, please pass it on to a friend. If we’ve earned your subscription, please
subscribe. And until we meet again, leave the world a
cleaner place than when you found it.

17 Comments

  • rob379

    Hiya Angela. I really respect your episodes… but you have triggered me aboot my Canadian ๐Ÿ‡จ๐Ÿ‡ฆ chain-smoking, whiskey-chugging mother-in-law. My dear old smoking-horse-voice-wrinkled-pucker-smoker-smelly-medicated to the max dear mother-in law. Yes Angela, I love my x-mother-in-law. My dear old x-mother-in-law that towed an old horse trailer over (while I was in work meeting 250km away), and โ€˜cleanedโ€™ out my house with my x-wife. Whew, sorry Angela, that took a lot out of me to disclose in confidence to you. Thank you for listening, friend.
    Angela, do you happen to have a decent single sister?
    just askinโ€™

  • Sally May

    Very wise advice. This is my MIL but she passed on the gene to my Sister-in-law and now she does it back to her Mum. Thatโ€™s karma ๐Ÿ˜Š

  • jupiterplanet mars

    My Mother-in-law's house is always clean, but one thing that bothers me is that once there is food that falls on the floor let's say cookies, she pick it up and put on her mouth right away without washing or wiping. So disgusting!

  • Bernadette Swetsky

    "Cut that out, it's mean and it makes you a jerk." Hysterical. I love it. I never understand those that feel this type of negative criticism is constructive. I don't comment on your unannounced/unwanted visit. Thank you for sharing and enjoy your holidays.

  • TheAnnas4cats

    There are more psychological skills on there than on a dedicated website . The relatives yeah but a coworker and so on. Thank you ๐Ÿ˜Š

  • Karyn B

    The last time my FIL came for dinner he waited at the dinner table and looking toward the birds said 'the animals outside are eating better than us.' He's gone now and I remember that last meal. Totally representative of him and his personality. My friend said, I'd have taken his plate and gone outside and served him some seeds in a dog bowl! I didn't do that, but it was a funny idea. Some people are always rude…and then they die. Just like everyone else. What a waste.

  • Sunflower Fields

    "If you come over and it's not good enough, leave". O M G I can't stop laughing. I love it. I'm going to remember that when my mother comes over.

  • Debbie B

    I'm the mother in law , I see a mess at "kid house weekly " do I speak up ? NOooooooooo way !!!!
    It doesn't take much to see our Daughter doesn't clean , as much as she should. Do I say anything ? Nooooo
    I had a mother in law , who would "Take One Foot , In The House " and say something Bad .
    Every time , she came to visit . To this day I can't see why she was Complaining , my house is always clean.
    My house looks like NOBODY lives in it ( No Clutter ) , the house looks Staged , like I'm ready to sell the house .
    My mother in law , she would complain , if it was clean or not . She's just that type of person ( complain ) .
    I said to myself , When and If I ever have a Daughter In law , I would NEVER say , Nag on her .
    I'll let her mother Nag on her , NOT me !!!

  • Debbie B

    I'm the mother in law , I see a mess at "kid house weekly " do I speak up ? NO way !!!!
    It doesn't take much to see our Daughter doesn't clean , as much as she should. Do I say anything ? No
    I had a mother in law , who would "Take One Foot , In The House " and say something Bad .
    Every time , she came to visit . To this day I can't see why she was Complaining , my house is always clean.
    My house looks like NOBODY lives in it ( No Clutter ) , the house looks Staged , like I'm ready to sell the house .
    My mother in law , she would complain , if it was clean or not . She's just that type of person ( complain ) .
    Oh yes , when my mother in law , were outside , she would pull my weeds and complain about that .
    I said to myself , When and If I ever have a Daughter In law , I would NEVER Nag on her .
    I'll let her mother Nag on her , NOT me !!!
    I keep so much stuff to myself and hold back to say anything to my daughter law .
    Everything you had said about Family , and spending Quality Time with them , 100% True โ€ฆ.I totally agree !!!

  • PatJ61

    When I have company or relatives coming over, I use your "5 Ways to Clean Like a Cleaning Service" video. It is awesome! Although my mother-in-law is deceased, I think it would be totally appropriate for other viewers to use as a basis for mother-in-law cleaning. On a somewhat amusing note, I find it very comforting that my mother-in-law wasn't the greatest homemaker. She loved her family fiercely and nurtured her son to be a good man. That's all that matters.

  • Jovanna Alvarez

    If they don't like it, looks like they need to help me clean to their expectations,or let's just decide to enjoy each other's company, I'm just saying

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